Introduction: Breaking the Dry Spell

Sexual dry spells happen. Life gets busy. Stress piles up. Maybe you’ve been long-distance, navigating a health challenge, or simply not feeling “in the mood” lately. Whatever the reason, you’re not alone — and you’re definitely not doomed.

Now, the spark is starting to return. Maybe it’s a flirtatious glance across the table, a shared laugh that lingers too long, or that text message that makes your stomach flip. You’re thinking, “It’s been a long time coming...” And you're absolutely right.

But how do you return to intimacy after a dry spell — especially when it feels a little awkward, emotional, or even intimidating?

This blog explores the different types of sex that can help you reconnect physically, emotionally, and passionately with your partner. From soft and sensual to playful and bold, there’s no one right way — only the one that works for both of you.

Soft and Sensual Sex: Easing Back Into Intimacy

When it has been a while, jumping straight into high-intensity sex might feel jarring. Instead, start slow. Soft and sensual sex is all about rebuilding trust, connection, and physical comfort.

What It Looks Like:

• Long, slow kisses
  
  
• Gentle touch and stroking
  
  
• Whispered compliments and words of affirmation
  
  
• Slow rhythm with eye contact
  
  
• Focus on comfort, not performance
  
  

Why It’s Perfect Post-Dry Spell:

This type of sex creates a warm and emotionally safe space. It’s a gentle re-entry into the physical world of touch and desire, especially if either of you has been feeling disconnected or insecure.

Quickie Sex: Seizing the Spontaneous Moment

If desire has been bubbling under the surface for weeks (or months), you might not want to wait. A quickie is the perfect “welcome back” — no planning, no pressure, just giving in to the heat of the moment.

What It Looks Like:

• Fast, fun, and impulsive
  
  
• Done before work, in the shower, or during a break
  
  
• Clothes may stay partially on
  
  
• Often standing up or in a convenient position
  
  

When to Try:

• You’ve both been flirting for days and finally get some alone time
  
  
• You feel too nervous for a long session
  
  
• You want to get physical without overthinking it
  
  

Quickie sex reminds you that intimacy doesn’t always have to be an elaborate production — it can be playful, messy, and full of laughter.

Make-Up Sex: From Tension to Passion

Sometimes, a dry spell is linked to emotional distance or unresolved arguments. Once things are talked out, there’s often a release of energy and emotion that leads straight to the bedroom. That’s where make-up sex comes in.

What It Looks Like:

• Deep kissing with urgency
  
  
• Rougher or more intense than usual
  
  
• Passionate, emotional, and consuming
  
  
• Often includes talking — both naughty and vulnerable
  
  

What Makes It Work:

Make-up sex works because it’s fueled by emotion: relief, vulnerability, forgiveness, and sometimes anger turned into desire. If it’s consensual and both of you feel emotionally safe, it can be incredibly cathartic.

Note: Make-up sex should never replace communication or conflict resolution. Think of it as a reward for doing the emotional work, not a substitute for it.

Lazy Morning Sex: Wake Up, Warm Up

Waking up next to your partner and feeling the warmth of their body can be the perfect trigger for lazy morning sex. It’s unhurried, cozy, and intimate — just what you need when rekindling that spark.

What It Looks Like:

• Sleepy touches, half-lidded eyes
  
  
• Spooning or side-lying positions
  
  
• Gentle grinding and slow build-up
  
  
• A natural start to the day, before the world gets loud
  
  

Bonus Tips:

• Keep a bottle of water-based lube and breath mints nearby
  
  
• No pressure to shower — natural is sexy
  
  
• Focus on connection, not climax
  
  

Morning sex is a soft reminder that love and intimacy can feel easy — even when life is complicated.

Playful and Experimental Sex: Spice It Up

After a period of no sex, you may want to use this moment to try something new — something you’ve both been curious about. Enter playful or experimental sex.

What It Looks Like:

• Introducing a toy (like a mini vibrator or feather tickler)
  
  
• Trying a new position you’ve never attempted before
  
  
• Incorporating role-play or fantasy scenarios
  
  
• Using a blindfold or playing with temperature
  
  

Why It’s a Game-Changer:

This type of sex makes things exciting again. It allows you to explore new sensations, laugh together, and break out of the routine that might have contributed to the dry spell in the first place.

Important: Always communicate boundaries before trying anything new. Consent and comfort come first.

Long and Luxurious Sex: All the Time in the World

Sometimes, the best way to celebrate the end of a dry spell is by making an entire evening (or morning or afternoon) out of it. Long, luxurious sex gives you the time and space to fully reconnect.

What It Looks Like:

• A long massage with oils
  
  
• Extended foreplay (think an hour or more)
  
  
• Oral sex, mutual touch, taking turns giving pleasure
  
  
• Multiple rounds or just one very long, slow build
  
  

How to Set the Mood:

• Dim lights or candles
  
  
• Sensual music
  
  
• Soft bedding
  
  
• No rush, no phones, just presence
  
  

This is the kind of sex where you explore every inch of your partner’s body and emotions. It is indulgent, emotional, and deeply satisfying.

Emotional Reconnection Sex: Soul to Soul

Physical intimacy and emotional connection go hand in hand. If your dry spell came from emotional burnout, grief, or distance, then emotional reconnection sex can be a beautiful way to heal together.

What It Looks Like:

• Cuddling, kissing, and talking before and after
  
  
• Eye contact and gentle physical expressions of love
  
  
• Lots of touch, affirmation, and reassurance
  
  
• Often ends in spooning, cuddling, or shared tears
  
  

Ideal For:

• Couples going through life changes (like having a baby or losing a loved one)
  
  
• People who’ve recently reunited after time apart
  
  
• Anyone feeling emotionally raw or disconnected
  
  

It’s not about performance or even orgasm — it’s about closeness.

Solo Sex: Reconnecting With Yourself

Yes, we’re talking about masturbation — and no, it’s not just for people without a partner. If you’ve been in a dry spell, reconnecting with your own body is one of the most powerful steps toward reigniting intimacy with someone else.

Benefits:

• Helps you explore what feels good
  
  
• Builds confidence
  
  
• Allows for emotional release
  
  
• Can reduce anxiety around sex
  
  

You can even share this solo time with your partner through mutual masturbation or watching each other — a very real, very hot way to rebuild intimacy.

Scheduled Sex: Rebuilding Routine Without Pressure

While “scheduled sex” might sound boring or robotic, it can actually be a very smart and satisfying way to restart your sexual relationship.

What It Looks Like:

• Agreeing on a date night or “sex night” each week
  
  
• Creating a sense of anticipation and preparation
  
  
• Reducing the pressure to “wait for the mood”
  
  

Think of it like a dinner reservation or movie night — it gives you something to look forward to and ensures you make time for pleasure.

The First Time Again: Navigating the Awkwardness

After a long dry spell, the first time can feel a lot like... well, the first time. It might be a little awkward, nervous, and imperfect. And that’s okay.

Tips for a Smooth Return:

• Laugh through the awkwardness — it means you’re trying
  
  
• Use plenty of lube
  
  
• Communicate openly and kindly
  
  
• Don’t pressure each other for a “perfect” session
  
  
• Focus on enjoying the moment, not achieving something specific
  
  

Remember: your body, emotions, and rhythm may have changed — especially after things like childbirth, trauma, stress, or major life events. Go easy on yourself and each other.

Signs You’re Ready to Reconnect Sexually

Sometimes, people wonder if they are truly “ready” after a long break. Here are a few signs that the moment might be right:

• You feel physically or emotionally drawn to your partner again
  
  
• You’ve been fantasizing or dreaming about sex
  
  
• You’re feeling more confident in your body
  
  
• You miss the physical connection
  
  
• You’ve resolved underlying relationship issues
  
  

Even one or two of these signals is enough to start with a conversation and see where it leads.

When to Seek Help

Sometimes, the dry spell is not just about timing or life stress — it may be deeper. If any of the following apply, consider talking to a sex therapist or counselor:

• One or both partners feel resentment or fear around sex
  
  
• There’s been past trauma or infidelity
  
  
• You feel pressure, guilt, or anxiety about performance
  
  
• Communication keeps breaking down
  
  
• Medical conditions are interfering with libido or function
  
  

Getting help is not a sign of failure. It’s a courageous step toward healing and intimacy.

Conclusion: Reigniting the Flame, Your Way

Whether it has been weeks, months, or even years, the return to sexual connection is a beautiful journey — not a race. Every couple’s dry spell is different. What matters most is that you’re ready to reconnect — with love, curiosity, and an open mind.

Try soft and sensual sex to ease back in. Play with something new to rediscover excitement. Make it quick, make it long, make it yours. There’s no right way to come back to intimacy — only the way that feels right for you.

So take a breath, make the first move, and remember: It’s been a long time coming — and it’s worth every second.